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headshot for websiteBonnie Jean Feldkamp has worked as a freelance writer since 2001 publishing service journalism articles as well as personal essays. She specializes in topics relevant to kids and families. Bonnie contributes features and a monthly blog to Cincinnati Family magazine. Her work has appeared in The New York Times and Brain, Child Magazine as well as regional parenting publications. Bonnie is the Director of Media for the National Society of Newspaper Columnists, is a member of Parent Media Association and the National Association of Memoir Writers. She is a wife and mother of three who writes from her home office in Louisville, Kentucky, where PJs are considered professional attire. Her bi-cultural memoir on love and blending families is agent ready. Stay tuned.

 

 

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My Step-Daughter-To-Be Helped Me Heal

The CeremonyMy boyfriend’s daughter, processed her trauma in bouts of rage. It echoed through every corridor of the house. Her eruptions started with slammed cupboards in the kitchen and ended with shouts of fury over feeling unloved or unwanted. My love, she recognized as an intrusion on her time with her father. Only Dad could pack her lunch for school, and only Dad could help her with homework. If she couldn’t find an article of clothing she wanted to wear, only Dad could help her find it, even if I had done the laundry.

I was there to love her dad, not her. Right? We weren’t married yet. She wasn’t even my stepdaughter. I didn’t have any obligation to even pretend to love her. But I did love her. And I loved her for reasons that had nothing to do with where she came from or who fathered her. I loved her spirit, her resilience, and her sassy humor. When she was open, we talked, ventured out into the city together or sat in front of a good movie and crafted string bracelets. But when we got too close she didn’t trust it, so she raged. She wasn’t angry with me. She was angry with the woman who let her down. I got the “redirect” the therapist said.

Once, she raged to the point of destruction… READ MORE

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